One Way that Time with God Impacts our Relationships

Below is one way that the time we spend with God in his Word and in prayer impacts our relationships with others. No doubt there are many connections! This is not exhasutive! Loving people requires forgiving them (and grace) Forgiving others requires receiving forvigeness (and grace) Receiving forvigeness requires confession (and grace) Confession requires conviction (and grace) Conviction requires knowledge …

Different kinds of doubled mindedness

Sometimes a person is double minded because they are deceitful. Their agendas are hidden and their aggression is passive. Sometimes a person is double minded because they are genuinely conflicted. They feel one way in one moment and another way in the next. The pros and cons are so close that they waver back and forth. The first kind of …

shooting yourself in the foot

“Such are the paths of all who go after ill-gotten gain; it takes away the life of those who get it.” Proverbs 1:19 There will always be people who look for ways to take an unfair advantage over the innocent. We often ambush the ignorant under a deception which weakly justifies our actions. We may say something like: “It’s just …

Three Dollar Grace

Every morning, I drive my oldest son two miles to his school. I love that time. I look forward to it. I consistently pray about it and ask God to give me the right things to say. Every morning looks a little different—and this is a result of my personality rather than my design. Some mornings, I pray for the …

The McGill Family Christmas Pregame

A few years ago, I noticed a pattern developing on Christmas morning. The kids would wake up far earlier than I ever felt necessary … with more energy than I thought possible. After being dragged from my bed, we’d pause long enough for me to get a cup of coffee, and then my kids would descend upon their gifts with …

Why do we irritate others?

“…her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her.”(1 Samuel 1:6) What moves us to provoke others? Even when we are so richly blessed, why do we feel the need to grind others down? Perhaps it is a lack of thankfulness, we fail to remember and acknowledge God as the provider of everything we need. Our lack of gratitude …

A Parent’s Prayer

Then Manoah prayed to the Lord: “…teach us how to bring up the boy who is to be born.”  (Judges 13:8)  

Speak the truth in love

“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow…” (Ephesians 4:15) The self-righteous wield the truth like a weapon of mass destruction, ambivalent to the the devastating consequences. When confronted, the predictable response follows: “WHAT? All I did was tell the truth?” Their fortress of foolishness is unassailable. Mostly. Speaking the truth without love ignores the greatest truth: we are …

You should tell more lies

… there is nothing false about [Jesus]. (John 7:18) I’ve seen people tell lies–“white” ones too–for the following reasons: To ACCOMPLISH their agendas. To AVERT undesirable, yet deserved, consequences for their actions To AVOID conflict with others. The first group is far too practical, they will say whatever works in the moment in order to get what they want. Justification is …

What good comes from telling the TRUTH?

[Jesus] is a man of truth. (John 7:18) Why should we tell the truth, what good comes from it? When we tell the truth, we follow Jesus’ example. He is our model, the shape our souls ought to take is his. The spiritual life is about becoming more like Jesus. This means fighting off the powerful temptation to bend the …