Loss is inevitable. At some point, situation and circumstance will spin beyond control and take something important. It may be a treasured thing, relationship, or opportunity. Either way, loss isn’t fun.
The amount of pain we experience is determined by how much we loved the thing lost. The deeper the roots, the bigger the hole when it is taken from the heart.
In my experience, there are at least four ways God might be working in a season of loss.
PROTECTION. There are times when the thing we love (and now lack) would have harmed us in the future. We may be angry at God for taking something we love from us, but the reality may be that God is saving us from harm. The perfect job may have transformed into an all consuming career. Go won’t let us face a temptation we can’t handle. Some loss is God removing something we think we need, be he knows will be dangerous.
THANKFULNESS. When we loose a good thing, we face a genuine opportunity for new insight. Unfortunately, we rarely learn while satisfied. Complacency and apathy often replace understanding when we have everything we need. Loosing a good thing is the opportunity to thankful for the time we did have it.
DEPENDENCE. When we loose something deeply treasured–good or bad–we discover a new way to trust God. Loving anything more than God–even the good things–eventually leads to destruction. When we become tired of surrendering our full lives to God, loosing something wakes us up. We may hate the early morning alarm clock, but we are better because of it. Loss can get us back on the path of increasing dependence on God.
CREATION. When something good is taken from us, God may be calling us to create this thing in a new place, in a new way. Old branches must die for the new ones to grow. Safety was taken from the early church, so she dispersed and created new churches all over the world.
So you’ve lost something important. Grieve. Be sad. Get angry and ask questions that challenge the wisdom and fairness of God (He can handle it) . But don’t stop there. Find answers. Seek what God is doing in your life. He might be (a) protecting you from harm, (b) increasing your thankfulness, (c) drawing you closer to him, (d) or calling you to recreate something new.
“Do not lay a hand on the boy,” he said. “Do not do anything to him. Now I know that you fear God, because you have not withheld from me your son, your only son.” (Genesis 22:12)
Who can fathom the Spirit h of the LORD, or instruct the LORD as his counselor? Whom did the LORD consult to enlighten him, and who taught him the right way? Who was it that taught him knowledge, or showed him the path of understanding? (Isaiah 40:13-14)