Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Matthew 25:25-28)
You should be your best. God created you with amazing skills and given you marvelous gifts.
You should be your best, but you don’t have to be the best. You don’t have to be the best person in the room.
When you are in a meeting, leading a small group, or teaching a message, which way does your attitude lean: towards being your best or the best? When you are honest with yourself, are you really looking to lord over people?
Maybe you are the best, the best at organizing or teaching or pulling off a particular event. If you are the best, have some humility so that you are serving others the way Jesus did. Jesus was the best, in every room he stepped into. Jesus was better than everyone he ever encountered. However, in his magnificent humility, sinners still approached him, fools still argued with him, and the sick came for healing.
If you aren’t the best–if you don’t have all the answers–stop trying to fake it. The desire to be seen as the expert comes from a dark place. You can still lead if you give up the act, even though this may be very hard to accept. Other people will still accept you when you drop the act.
The difference is ego verses humility. While humility is difficult to choose, it’s clearly the example Jesus set for us to follow.
BIBLE STUDY DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Do you find it difficult when others are in the limelight? Is it hard to not get the credit? in what situations do you crave to be seen as the expert?
What is a practical way you can give up some control and allow others more freedom? What are some subtle actions you take that contradict the calling to be a servant?
Do the people you are leading feel comfortable around you? How can you tell? What can you do to increase the freedom the feel?